This week, I'm exploring the "Illusion of Hope", one of the chapters in my upcoming book, Living Into Greatness. In the previous post, I talked about how hope can keep us from doing the very thing we can do to get what we want.
Entitlement plays a role here, as well. When we feel life owes us something, that we deserve that new car, that raise, or that best selling book, our desire becomes a need, changing the energy around it.
The twin brother of entitlement is attachment.
Think of something you've really, really wanted in life. Now think of wanting that thing so bad that you begin to hold onto so tightly that you squeeze the life out of it and it's no longer fun. Now you've made it into something you need. "I need that new client because I've got to pay that tax bill I owe, or the mortgage on the house." It's got a whole different feeling to it, doesn't it? Attachment has a way of doing that to our wants and desires.
I recently had the opportunity to interview my friend Joe Vitale, author of The Attractor Factor, which just came out at the beginning of April and rocketed to the bestseller list. Here's what Joe had to say about the role attachment plays in attracting what we want:
"The reality is, if you say you want something and you're not happy unless you get it, you're sending out an energy that repels the very thing you want."
(To read the full interview, click here.)
There's a pattern developing here. Expectation + Entitlement + Need = Disapointment + Status Quo + Disconnection
When we expect something, it's often related to an attitude that we deserve it (entitlement) and when we feel we're entitled to something it changes from a desire to a need. The playfulness is gone. It's do or die. Black or white. Not a great way to have fun, or live into greatness.
So think about this:
How is your attachment to something holding your present hostage?
The Illusion of Time keeps us disconnected from our intuition and stuck thinking about regrets, misgivings, or wistful longing. It is an illusion where true happiness and fulfillment always seems to be in the future or the past. Join Kim as she explores how the past and future hold our present hostage and discover key strategies for letting go of how things will work to embrace the when of present opportunity.
